Inbox Stylist: Swim, Sand and Sea Edition

Instant outfits for the beach club, boat trip, pool day or lake house.

Summer is a liminal space, isn’t it?

I’m not forcing any big decisions while things remain unresolved. Limbo is its own particular kind of difficult because you can’t fully grieve, but you also can’t really plan. I’m just kinda holding the logistics of a future I can’t see yet, if that makes sense? I have decided I’m not going to let my July be shapeless. Okay, so I was getting married this month, and now there’s this full month ahead of emptiness, waiting, and healing instead. The structure of my life is intact, but there’s a big piece that’s just… paused.

I think structure and having things to look forward to are the antidote to that anxious floating feeling I have right now. Letting myself have actual fun while I let the sand flow through the hourglass and stay in touch with my guy long-distance, you know? My Mom visited this weekend, and it was exactly what I needed. She cooked me my favorite meal, scratched my back in bed, and let me cry when I needed to. We went to the Pride parade, and I fed off the buoyancy. I head to Sea Island for July 4th soon (packing list below), and I think being home in The South will nourish me as well.

These are the things that will keep me intact so I can be strong when we pick our lives back up. I want to greet Kevin as someone who kept living, not a hollow person who held her breath for 30 days. I can’t demand answers from a situation that can’t give them yet! So I just need to let that knowledge exist alongside a life that’s still good.

Since proximity to water is so damn healing, here’s an Inbox Stylist for sun, sand and sea — whatever watery summer days you have ahead. Do it in style; life is short.

Agua Bendita bikini, coordinating sarong, Deux Amis necklace, TWP hat, Underwater Weaving clutch, Jude heels, Jacquemus sunglasses, Good Weather Skin sunscreen and lip gloss, Dr. Diamond’s Metacine EyeLift, Dorsey ring.

Simkhai bikini, Dorsey anklet, Alemais cover up, Zara bag, Camp Snap camera, Doctor Stolberg tea, Zara sandals.

Janessa Leone hat, Zara necklace, Anemos bikini, Bo Joe for Jacques Marie Mage sunglasses, Metier glasses case, Diptyque candle, Alemais cover up, Zara shoes, Zara bag.

Left on Friday bathing suit, Dorsey necklace, Linda Farrow sunglasses, Johanna Ortiz cover up, Janessa Leone hat, Phoebe Philo bag, Christen shoes, Crown Affair hair oil.

Zara hat, Zara x Leandra necklace, The Row sunglasses, Sarah Creal bronzer, Agua Bendita bikini, Isabel Marant pareo, The Row bag, Zara sandals.

Lelet NY claw clip, Cala de la Cruz bikini, Eres cover up, Zara earrings, Dorsey necklace, Underwater Weaving Studio basket, Diptyque summer body spray/insect repellent (it’s sold out almost everywhere!!)

Agua Bendita bikini, Zara earrings, Jacques Marie Mage sunglasses, Johanna Ortiz cover up, U Beauty The Sculpt concentrate, Zara sandals, Call It By Your Name tote.

Agua Bendita bathing suit, Zara bandana, Zara earrings, Agua Bendita cover up, Rue de Verneuil Traversée tote bag, Celisse The Essential Set, Ultra Violette face sunscreen.

Comme Si shirt, Gigi Burris hat, Left on Friday bathing suit, Phoebe Philo bag, Credo sunscreen serum, Urban Sophistication phone case, Phoebe Philo flip flops.