It's a Love Story.

4 Instant Outfits for Winter Date Night

When Colleen Crivello reached out, she wanted to talk about one of my favorite topics: love. Her entire newsletter, Double Take, is dedicated to the subject. In it, she explores relationship dynamics, dating advice, and topics like moving on after a divorce. So when she asked for my love story, I felt I was in a safe place to share. You can read it here, where we talk about meet-cutes, attachment styles, and what to wear on a date.

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A few other love notes and a bit of holiday housekeeping while I have you:

• The final hours of FWRD’s random but serendipitous site-wide 20% off is on. I pulled together a quick edit of selects here — and yes, The Row is included. Maybe it’s time to pull the trigger on that bag you’ve been eyeing. Merry ho ho 2 U!

• My buddyLiz McKay launched a new Substack called Bad Influence, which you should peek at. And if nobody’s put you onto Harriet yet, allow me to be the first. Both asked me what I’d like to receive this year, from me to me or in my wildest dreams. I also owe a BIG thank you to Lucy Williams, who sent so many new faces my way this week — if you’re new here, hi!

• La Ligne gave us a discount code (JESS20) for 20% off — if you love their Marin sweater as much as I do, it’s a good excuse to pounce. I like to spring for the sleeve monogram. If you’re more of a muted tones-type gal, Jenni Kayne is offering 20% off their sumptuous sweaters, slippers, et al. with code HOLIDAY. Perfect thing to swaddle yourself in on Christmas morning for present-opening time.

• If you’d like to take some of your shopping money and put it towards a good cause, my friend Jaycina has a wonderful charity called Tender that helps Black moms on the margins in my old home of Atlanta. It’s a wonderful cause, and you’d be helping pay someone’s rent, put food on someone’s table, or get diapers for a family who could use a little boost right now. Nothing says “Happy Holidays” like the peace of mind that your bills are paid.

• I know many of you reading don’t celebrate Christmas. (We’re a Chrismukkah family in this house, coming from blended families.) If the 25th mostly means Chinese food and a movie, or you’re just fucking sick of Christmas music right now, I made you a playlist of good wintry vibes that don’t jingle all the way:

  

I hope you’re happy, safe, and warm right now. You’ll hear from me a little less over the coming weeks as I take a break to spend time with family and friends. Our Subscriber Chat is always open, and you can always keep in touch with me between letters over on Instagram. Cheers!