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First off, I want to say that your vulnerability and honesty are both brave and refreshing. You're not alone in feeling this way, especially when life throws curveballs at you from every direction. It's okay to have BIG FEELINGS; they're a sign that you're engaged with the world around you, even when it's challenging.

It's crucial to remember that you're not a limitless resource. Your value is not up for debate, and it's okay to set boundaries. The people who truly appreciate you will understand and respect that.

You're more resilient than you give yourself credit for. Take some time for yourself to recharge. You've got this!

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You so eloquently put in to words how I have been feeling lately. Just because we are good at doing everything doesn’t mean we should- I was told once. Here’s to filling your own tank- putting the oxygen mask on yourself. Keep creating and saying no!

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Jess, love your newsletter and perspective on fashion in general. I do get more ideas from your newsletters than any IG person because it is raw and real. Have a great time at NYFW and I know you will let us know of the good stuff. Hopefully one day to meet you in person and buy you a coffee, tea, wine or cocktail.

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Thank you Julia! I know we will meet one day, too many great people in common not to!

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1) congrats on the newsletter numbers - what an accomplishment. 2) even better you're able to say no. I do something twice a week for ten hours total I absolutely hate. And I wish I could stop saying no, but I still don't trust my value. Such a hard place to be. Thanks for writing all the feelings I have been having!

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Thank you so much! For two years in from scratch, I'm proud. As far as trusting your value, I honestly think it's a big delulu bluff until you settle into it. If you don't feel a teeny tug in your tummy when stating your rates, you're probably not asking for enough.

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I felt so much of this! As a care-giver and biz owner I say YES so often it is almost a reflex. Saying no is liberating and frees you up for the really good stuff! YES to taking care of yourself and prioritizing you.

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I still say yes too much, too! And then I blow a gasket and end up having to say just as many no's if not more to compensate for overtaxing myself lol -- still working on it!

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Jess! I’m sorry you’ve had a hard time recently. I’ve experienced the things you mentioned and it doesn’t feel good. At the same, YES for saying NO to anything not worth your precious energy! And a big YES for embracing the people and projects close to your heart that bring you joy!

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Hell YES! And YES to your excellent newsletter, I'm glad you said no to other things to create it. I really enjoy it.

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