just a note: the people who love you will ONLY see perfection and joy. you could literally serve peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and people will take a few bites and bound over to the dance floor. If you're happy, the wedding is perfect and if you're having fun and not fretting about flowers, everyone will have a blast. congrats and best wishes for a magical day!
Hang in there! I had to plan my SoCal wedding remotely from Bermuda— and this was pre COVID when Zoom barely existed lol. My biggest learning was to (try) to not sweat the small stuff. Bc there’s A LOT of small stuff! And while details are important, your sanity is moreso. Xx
We had a small elopement style wedding - just a photographer and 3 friends (one to officiate and 2 witnesses, one of whom did the flowers!) at Wave Hill. I wouldn’t change a thing. And then had a big party for 100+ people 6 months later at our favorite space in NY, that was FUN to plan because all you really had to worry about was the drinks and food (music?). It was manageable and enjoyable, at that point. I don’t know if that helps 🤷🏻♀️
Ahh Jess told ya before. After I planned my three girls and my second. Elope Elope... I know I know, the feels, fantasy, illusion. We have dreamt about it all our lives etcetc. Go on a fabulous trip. And then come back & have one of those great dinner parties to celebrate. 🤷🏼♀️
Re wedding planning: if I do say it myself, and I do, my wedding was amazing: the setting, music, flowers, dresses (two!), honestly there's nothing I would change... EXCEPT how much I stressed out about it beforehand (and during!).
*This* is the important part: on April 30 we will have been married 14 years, and not one detail of the (admittedly great) party we threw is relevant to how incredible our marriage is. The wedding was...just a party. And the people getting married miss a LOT of the party! Do NOT blow it up in your mind. It's supposed to be fun and that includes the lead-up. Other than that - even if it rains, the peonies wilt, the food is terrible and your hair doesn't work - that isn't the important bit and it won't matter one iota after the fact.
I am deeply grateful for our wedding because our FRIENDS had a great time and because many friends who hadn't met before created lasting bonds. Also we have some pretty photos. If I had it to do over, though? I'd probably elope, and then throw an insane bash to celebrate.
No one talks about how difficult wedding planning is. And even worse, no one talks about how much strain is put on your relationship during a time that’s meant to be the most joyful (I mostly blame Hollywood for brainwashing us with picture perfect movies and unrealistic sorry lines, but I also blame girlfriends that don’t tell the truth and pretend life is perfect). The truth is it DOES get better, and you will come out of it a stronger couple. Stick with it and don’t listen to the lies you tell yourself (“it’s dumb”, “we’ll regret it”, etc.). It will become the most special and intimate day, and you will dance your ass off. Promise. ❤️
just a note: the people who love you will ONLY see perfection and joy. you could literally serve peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and people will take a few bites and bound over to the dance floor. If you're happy, the wedding is perfect and if you're having fun and not fretting about flowers, everyone will have a blast. congrats and best wishes for a magical day!
Hang in there! I had to plan my SoCal wedding remotely from Bermuda— and this was pre COVID when Zoom barely existed lol. My biggest learning was to (try) to not sweat the small stuff. Bc there’s A LOT of small stuff! And while details are important, your sanity is moreso. Xx
We had a small elopement style wedding - just a photographer and 3 friends (one to officiate and 2 witnesses, one of whom did the flowers!) at Wave Hill. I wouldn’t change a thing. And then had a big party for 100+ people 6 months later at our favorite space in NY, that was FUN to plan because all you really had to worry about was the drinks and food (music?). It was manageable and enjoyable, at that point. I don’t know if that helps 🤷🏻♀️
Jess - how does the Donni t-shirt compare to Leset?
Ahh Jess told ya before. After I planned my three girls and my second. Elope Elope... I know I know, the feels, fantasy, illusion. We have dreamt about it all our lives etcetc. Go on a fabulous trip. And then come back & have one of those great dinner parties to celebrate. 🤷🏼♀️
Re wedding planning: if I do say it myself, and I do, my wedding was amazing: the setting, music, flowers, dresses (two!), honestly there's nothing I would change... EXCEPT how much I stressed out about it beforehand (and during!).
*This* is the important part: on April 30 we will have been married 14 years, and not one detail of the (admittedly great) party we threw is relevant to how incredible our marriage is. The wedding was...just a party. And the people getting married miss a LOT of the party! Do NOT blow it up in your mind. It's supposed to be fun and that includes the lead-up. Other than that - even if it rains, the peonies wilt, the food is terrible and your hair doesn't work - that isn't the important bit and it won't matter one iota after the fact.
I am deeply grateful for our wedding because our FRIENDS had a great time and because many friends who hadn't met before created lasting bonds. Also we have some pretty photos. If I had it to do over, though? I'd probably elope, and then throw an insane bash to celebrate.
💤💤💤Kevin’s response to the wedding planning stress ~ so REAL 🫶🏻🫶🏻
No one talks about how difficult wedding planning is. And even worse, no one talks about how much strain is put on your relationship during a time that’s meant to be the most joyful (I mostly blame Hollywood for brainwashing us with picture perfect movies and unrealistic sorry lines, but I also blame girlfriends that don’t tell the truth and pretend life is perfect). The truth is it DOES get better, and you will come out of it a stronger couple. Stick with it and don’t listen to the lies you tell yourself (“it’s dumb”, “we’ll regret it”, etc.). It will become the most special and intimate day, and you will dance your ass off. Promise. ❤️