AMEN! The day goes by sooo fast so make sure and take some time out to enjoy just the two of you together alone! And, get a great photographer. I gave mine a list of people (family members) who I wanted her to get and she came up to me towards the end of the evening and asked me who she still needed to get. I was .... pissed, to put it mildly.
My best advice is that after the ceremony, instead of going straight to pictures with family or other things, go to a room just you and your husband (no photographers, no one else), and share a glass of champagne and soak in the moment. It’s hard to describe how meaningful and special it feels to declare your lives together (even if you already live together, share a pup etc) and while the rest of the wedding is SO FUN it will still feel like everyone wants a piece of you and it ends so fast. I’ll always remember those 5min together holding hands and looking into each other’s eyes, it was very special
Focus on what is most important to you! Whatever your budget (big or small), vendors and the wedding industry will make you feel like it's never quite enough. Know that it is, as long as its authentic to you! Congratulations xoxo
I tell this to all of my friends and acquaintances who are getting married: schedule some time on the day of your wedding to be alone. It can be 30 mins or an hour even, or something like a massage or quick walk with your dog. It can become chaotic and a little overwhelming with all of the getting ready, nerves, anticipation, questions, people coming in and out, and once it gets going it goes by so fast! Take some time for yourself to get centered, quiet the noise and take it all in. Congratulations! 💓💕
Agree with Jennifer! If you have the options to not let venders know it's a wedding, don't tell them. Routine markups of 2x or even 3x if they know it's a wedding as opposed to a dinner party or birthday or some other occasion.
Something will go wrong, and that’s ok. It’s how you handle it that matters: I ended up fainting at the altar. Once I came to, I laughed and loudly said “whoops, sorry everyone!” They all started clapping, I started blowing kisses to the pews as if they were fans, everyone began laughing and cheering, and I ended up getting a standing ovation from all of our loved ones in the middle of the ceremony. We then finished the ceremony with me sitting in a chair, gripping my husband’s hands, and when I leapt up at the end for the kiss, the whole congregation was cheering at top volume- thrilled I got through the rest of the ceremony without passing out again, no doubt! My point is, I wouldn’t have planned it that way. But I am so glad I handled it with humor and my husband said he had more than one person come up and tell him they were impressed, that a lesser woman would have crumpled in tears over how it had “gone wrong”. I’m proud that I was able to focus on what mattered in the moment- not perfection, but the joy of being with the man in front of me with all of our loved ones cheering us on. I recovered fine and we danced all night at the reception! Wishing you a fabulous celebration too, whether it goes perfectly smoothly or not.
On the more practical note, you will likely need help holding your dress up while you pee so be shameless about grabbing a friend or two 🤣 and ask your wedding planner / maid of honor / whom ever to bring you small bites of food throughout the night. I was way too jittery to eat a real meal and everyone comes to say hi but you don’t want to be drinking on an empty stomach! And drink a glass of water or some sips whenever one passes by. Everyone will want to cheers with you so you can end up drinking more than you realize or wanted
the only advice i have is pretty simple. at some point during the wedding, take a minute and grab your groom. stand on the outskirts of the venue, looking in at all your guests, dancing and laughing and having the time of their lives. it's a rare moment to see nearly everyone you love in the same place. the day goes by so quickly - this is a second to breath and take it all in. xx
Congratulations. So happy for you and your fiancé. The best advice I can give is to stay present in the moments leading up to your wedding. There will be so many details to attend to but the reason behind them all is the love you have for one another. The next nugget is advice I received on my wedding day and I share to all who ask. As you walk down the aisle and at your reception, look around the room at all the beautiful friends and family who have come to celebrate you on this special day. When things get hard and you need to reach out to someone, think of those who celebrated you that special day and remember your why.
The only thing I regret is not getting a photo of everyone attending all together. There was a balcony and it would have been such a cool shot of everyone there.
I got married last year and the best decision I made was to hire really creative people whose styles I love, and then let them do their thing. We had high standards and reasonable communication, but alignment is better than micromanaging (true in a lot of cases!)
I learned there’s really expensive fairly good stuff, really cheap okay-ish stuff, and then a weird middle where the next jump in quality is maybe 1x better but 3x or 5x the price, correspondingly. There is no reasonable midpoint. This is both bizarre and annoying.
Lastly, NYC is overflowing with incredibly cool small makers and craftspeople, for many of whom English is a second language. Web presence is not really their main focus. Hiring them was an absolute delight and an experience of discovery I wouldn’t have missed for anything.
Oh also, create a shared email address that you and your partner can both access and use that for ALL wedding communication. It makes things so much easier down the line.
Congrats !!!!! Use manifestation :) write out how you’d like to feel during the planning, what you want the vibe to be, your dress to look and feel like, your vision for the day, etc! Most importantly, think about what it represents and plan for the marriage, not just the wedding ! A pre-marriage course is phenomenal way to kick it off
congrats on your engagement! I went to a wedding on NYE once and it was the best. Ever since, I've tried to convince every one I know to get married on Dec 31st. It's truly the best day for a wedding because everyone kinda wants to do something, but no one wants to plan, and everyone feels festive, It'll be great!
As I’m approaching my 35th anniversary, my biggest tip is the wedding is just one day. It’s everything after that that is important!
AMEN! The day goes by sooo fast so make sure and take some time out to enjoy just the two of you together alone! And, get a great photographer. I gave mine a list of people (family members) who I wanted her to get and she came up to me towards the end of the evening and asked me who she still needed to get. I was .... pissed, to put it mildly.
My best advice is that after the ceremony, instead of going straight to pictures with family or other things, go to a room just you and your husband (no photographers, no one else), and share a glass of champagne and soak in the moment. It’s hard to describe how meaningful and special it feels to declare your lives together (even if you already live together, share a pup etc) and while the rest of the wedding is SO FUN it will still feel like everyone wants a piece of you and it ends so fast. I’ll always remember those 5min together holding hands and looking into each other’s eyes, it was very special
Focus on what is most important to you! Whatever your budget (big or small), vendors and the wedding industry will make you feel like it's never quite enough. Know that it is, as long as its authentic to you! Congratulations xoxo
I tell this to all of my friends and acquaintances who are getting married: schedule some time on the day of your wedding to be alone. It can be 30 mins or an hour even, or something like a massage or quick walk with your dog. It can become chaotic and a little overwhelming with all of the getting ready, nerves, anticipation, questions, people coming in and out, and once it gets going it goes by so fast! Take some time for yourself to get centered, quiet the noise and take it all in. Congratulations! 💓💕
Agree with Jennifer! If you have the options to not let venders know it's a wedding, don't tell them. Routine markups of 2x or even 3x if they know it's a wedding as opposed to a dinner party or birthday or some other occasion.
Something will go wrong, and that’s ok. It’s how you handle it that matters: I ended up fainting at the altar. Once I came to, I laughed and loudly said “whoops, sorry everyone!” They all started clapping, I started blowing kisses to the pews as if they were fans, everyone began laughing and cheering, and I ended up getting a standing ovation from all of our loved ones in the middle of the ceremony. We then finished the ceremony with me sitting in a chair, gripping my husband’s hands, and when I leapt up at the end for the kiss, the whole congregation was cheering at top volume- thrilled I got through the rest of the ceremony without passing out again, no doubt! My point is, I wouldn’t have planned it that way. But I am so glad I handled it with humor and my husband said he had more than one person come up and tell him they were impressed, that a lesser woman would have crumpled in tears over how it had “gone wrong”. I’m proud that I was able to focus on what mattered in the moment- not perfection, but the joy of being with the man in front of me with all of our loved ones cheering us on. I recovered fine and we danced all night at the reception! Wishing you a fabulous celebration too, whether it goes perfectly smoothly or not.
On the more practical note, you will likely need help holding your dress up while you pee so be shameless about grabbing a friend or two 🤣 and ask your wedding planner / maid of honor / whom ever to bring you small bites of food throughout the night. I was way too jittery to eat a real meal and everyone comes to say hi but you don’t want to be drinking on an empty stomach! And drink a glass of water or some sips whenever one passes by. Everyone will want to cheers with you so you can end up drinking more than you realize or wanted
Right! I remember this 27 years later...the struggle hoisting the frock was a big thing.
the only advice i have is pretty simple. at some point during the wedding, take a minute and grab your groom. stand on the outskirts of the venue, looking in at all your guests, dancing and laughing and having the time of their lives. it's a rare moment to see nearly everyone you love in the same place. the day goes by so quickly - this is a second to breath and take it all in. xx
Go with your gut! I gave in to "advice" from friends and family on hair/makeup/etc. and was not thrilled with the results. It haunts me to this day.
Congratulations. So happy for you and your fiancé. The best advice I can give is to stay present in the moments leading up to your wedding. There will be so many details to attend to but the reason behind them all is the love you have for one another. The next nugget is advice I received on my wedding day and I share to all who ask. As you walk down the aisle and at your reception, look around the room at all the beautiful friends and family who have come to celebrate you on this special day. When things get hard and you need to reach out to someone, think of those who celebrated you that special day and remember your why.
The only thing I regret is not getting a photo of everyone attending all together. There was a balcony and it would have been such a cool shot of everyone there.
we did this and it is hands down my favorite photo of the whole thing
One more -- print the photos out and getting a book made of your day. It is worth it!
I got married last year and the best decision I made was to hire really creative people whose styles I love, and then let them do their thing. We had high standards and reasonable communication, but alignment is better than micromanaging (true in a lot of cases!)
I learned there’s really expensive fairly good stuff, really cheap okay-ish stuff, and then a weird middle where the next jump in quality is maybe 1x better but 3x or 5x the price, correspondingly. There is no reasonable midpoint. This is both bizarre and annoying.
Lastly, NYC is overflowing with incredibly cool small makers and craftspeople, for many of whom English is a second language. Web presence is not really their main focus. Hiring them was an absolute delight and an experience of discovery I wouldn’t have missed for anything.
Oh also, create a shared email address that you and your partner can both access and use that for ALL wedding communication. It makes things so much easier down the line.
Congrats !!!!! Use manifestation :) write out how you’d like to feel during the planning, what you want the vibe to be, your dress to look and feel like, your vision for the day, etc! Most importantly, think about what it represents and plan for the marriage, not just the wedding ! A pre-marriage course is phenomenal way to kick it off
congrats on your engagement! I went to a wedding on NYE once and it was the best. Ever since, I've tried to convince every one I know to get married on Dec 31st. It's truly the best day for a wedding because everyone kinda wants to do something, but no one wants to plan, and everyone feels festive, It'll be great!